this finally happened in my little homophobic Lithuania (✿◠‿◠)
Ok, I commented on it.
Sigh. I might have written a FB message to him.
Why do I even try?
I can’t wait to sever all ties with the ignorant idiots I “grew up” with.
Andrew Wilfahrt changed his gait in the weeks before going off to basic training. He walked more upright. He bulked up with weights. He spoke with a deep Robocop voice. He acted “manly.”
Through the eyes of his parents, Jeff and Lori, it was all a bit strange.
This was the boy who told them he was gay at 16 after being confronted with exorbitant bills from Internet chat rooms. Who lobbied for gay rights in his high school and escaped the fists of football players when hockey players came to his rescue. Who had the courage to wear pink and green even after his car was spray-painted with “Go Home Fag!”
All his parents ever wanted was for Andrew to be Andrew.
In short: I hate that I live(d) in a society that immediately identifies two men hugging as “too gay”.
I hate small towns. I hate that I feel threatened at a GAY party.
Long story short: sweet boy got drunk. Shirt was removed and boy bumped into Thug. And Thug beat him. BEAT sweet boy even when he was on the floor.
I should never feel threatened. At a gay party. At a 209 party. Any party.
I hate this town. I hate this small town mentality. I hate this town.
I can’t wait for Tuesday. I can’t wait to no longer return this town, and no longer have to worry that if I BUMP into someone I might get beat to the floor.
Saying “[that][he][she][it]’s retarded”.
Everyone seems to say it - those that are against saying “That’s gay”; feminists; pro-choicers; my true PC friends. And yet, no one seems to notice how offensive that word is. Maybe it’s because I’ve worked with children with mental disabilities. Maybe I’m being sensitive. I don’t know. But, to me, saying something is ‘retarded’ is just as irresponsible, rude, and awful as comparing something to a sexuality.
Sure, one can say that the phrase does not directly refer to a specific individual with mental retardation. With autism. With Asperger’s. With Down Syndrome. But guess what - those homophobic bigots say the same thing about “that’s gay”, and we attack them on it. We argue that one is associating something negative, with something that isn’t [being gay].
And yet, we never hear anyone calling out those that identify a correlation between a mental disability and [insert situation/person/group/etc].
Maybe people need to see the looks of horror, discomfort, disgust, and ignorance from adults (many parents) when you hold hands with a child that solely needs a little more help with growing up. With preparing for life.
Now, I’m not saying I’m perfect and address people that say ‘retarded’ constantly. In fact, I hardly ever do. But I’m promising myself that I will start. And you should to.
Ted Olson is a bamf.